The Dance of Romance

February is the month of love. It even includes anshoot your arrows wherever you want. What
entire day that is set aside simply for the purpose ofrelationship in your life would you like infused with more
making grand gestures of romance and love.romance?
Valentine’s Day has been around for centuries.There is the obvious area of intimate relationships,
One story of the origin of Valentine’s Day dateswhether with a long term partner or spouse, someone
back to the 3rd century AD. Father Valentine, ayou are dating, or maybe even someone you are
Roman priest, defied what he believed was an unjustinterested in but haven’t yet let them know. Is there
law of his day that forbade marriage and secretlystill romance in your marriage or long term relationship?
married young lovers. For this he was sentenced toIf yes, be grateful for it every day and keep doing
death, was martyred two centuries later and becamewhat you’re doing that keeps romance alive. If not,
one of the most popular saints of France and Italy.let this month of love be the month to reclaim and
LOVEre-ignite the playful, passionate aliveness of romance
This thing called love receives more and more notice inwith some gesture that lets your partner know that
most every area of life. Spiritual traditions have longyou “see” and adore them. You can even do
claimed love to be at the core of healing andthis with someone you are dating or begin with
happiness. Philosophers have written of three types ofsomeone you are interested in. And there is always
love called eros, agape and philia. Medical research hasthe long-stemmed red rose, ever the symbol of love
produced scientific findings that love improves ourand romance. Whatever you do, do it authentically -
health – it changes us on a cellular level, enhancesput your playful, thoughtful, passionate heart in it!
our immune and cardiovascular systems, andWhat about your business or career? Might it be time
increases our endorphins. A recent Oprah showto start romancing your work or your business? Spend
highlighted a group of middle aged women whosome time here with your full attention, appreciation
attributed their vitality and success to doing what theyand curiosity. What is one passionate action that would
love. And the Law of Attraction that is rapidly gainingcreate a spark in this area of your life? Do that by
attention identifies love as a high energy emotion thatValentine’s Day. What is the particular charm or
transforms not only the “lover” but those nearuniqueness of your work or business, even if dormant
and far. As well it has the greatest attraction power ofright now? Highlight that in your planning and next
any energy.steps.
ROMANCEThere are many relationships in your life that could be
Since this is February I want to talk about the lovetransformed by a little romance besides those I
celebrated in February, love that is distinguished by thealready mentioned – even those with money and
“Big R word” - Romance. As I write this I amtime for starters. They all have one common
reminded that I don’t hear or read very muchdenominator - You. Maybe now is the time to start
anymore about romance, except for a week or twosome “serious” romancing of yourself? How
around Valentine’s Day. I think something is amiss.much adoring attention, genuine curiosity and profound
Who doesn’t, if you are truly honest with yourself,interest do you have for you? When was the last time
desire more romance in your life?you took time to “see” who you really are and
Think of it. Romance is romance because of an arraywhat’s most important to you, or consciously gifted
of delicious qualities such as genuine curiosity, adoringyourself with pleasure? Please take out your calendar
attention, expression of deep affection and passionateand highlight an evening or an afternoon during the
emotional involvement. Pretty good so far, don’tweek of Valentine’s Day that you will treat
you think? There’s more. Romance is filled withyourself to a romantic date with “you” to do, be
charm and excitement. There is play, intense pleasure,or have whatever strikes your romantic fantasy. And
profound interest and adoration. In romance one’sthen, make it a habit.
best self naturally shines forth, as well as the ability toTHE THREE M’S OF ROMANCE
see the magnificence in another. As I expect youRomance requires that you take time, slow down and
know, there is a great deal of energy in romance –pay attention. And if romance strikes your fancy,
energy of vitality, passion and aliveness. Now I ask youremember that what you give your attention to grows
again, “Who wouldn’t want more of that?” Ifstronger in your life.
you’re counting, count me in.I want to leave you with the three “M’s” of
HOW TO HAVE MORERomance – magic, mystery & miracles. These have
The next question becomes “how?” Beforeto be present for real romance to occur. While science
answering this question, I want to remind you that anycontinually strives to “know” and find answers to
“great” relationship requires several things, oneor reasons for everything in life, I invite you to also
of which is romance. Now let’s get back to theallow for magic, mystery & miracles which provide
question at hand, “What does it take to have moremuch of the spice in life and the romance in love.
romance in my relationships?” First, let’s go backMake sure to invite these into the Dance of Romance!
to the wisdom of Saint Valentine. He followed his heartEnjoy this month, and beyond, of romance. And
not the dictates of something he didn’t believe in.remember, You are a natural! You are brilliant! You are
So follow the desires of your heart, rather than themagnificent! Simply by being you. Let your light shine!
commands of “shoulds.” Second, choose toIf you’d like to speak with me about connecting
“become the Cupid in your own life.” Cupid, thewith your passion and creating a life and business you
Roman winged god of love, who shot his arrows oflove, call today for a 30 - minute complimentary
desire into unsuspecting persons has long been aconsultation @ 617-524-6153.
symbol for Valentine’s Day. As Cupid, you get to