| When bad things happen it's a natural tendency for | | | | will only make them worse. Being physically active |
| most people to want to wallow in despair, self-pity, and | | | | helps relieve stress and makes us forget our problems |
| self-doubt. It makes us want to crawl in bed with the | | | | for a while. |
| covers up and do nothing. But listen up! That's not the | | | | You should focus on one do-able solution and make |
| way we should handle setbacks. | | | | your mind think about that solution. What I do is I hold |
| Sit up straight. Get out of bed now! Don't give in. | | | | the solution to the top of my head and make my |
| Despair is a useless emotion that will just drain all your | | | | thoughts center around it. Whatever we think about will |
| energy and drag you into a deep dark pit where it's | | | | become a reality. Think about the solution, not the |
| hard to find your way and get out of. That's not where | | | | problem. This is so important. Let me repeat it for you. |
| you want to go. Giving in to the emotion despair | | | | Think about the solution, not the problem. |
| makes you realize how hopeless things are and how | | | | Now that you have the solution in front of you find |
| bleak your future is. And we need to turn that around | | | | ways to make that solution work and make it happen. |
| NOW! | | | | If you need $2-3k in 30 days brainstorm another list of |
| How do you combat despair? Take action. In fact, | | | | how and what you need to do to get that money in |
| take massive positive action. When you get the ball | | | | your hands in 30 days. If you need a wife in 30 days, |
| rolling and start planting more seeds you'll see results | | | | write down how you're going to get the woman of |
| trickle in. These results will make you smile because it | | | | your dreams and propose to her within 30 days. That |
| tells you that there is hope. And hope is previous; it | | | | second one should be a fun goal for you fellas. |
| keeps us going no matter what situation we're in. | | | | Break your goal down into little steps such as what |
| The first thing you should do is grab a pen and a | | | | you need to do specifically each day to accomplish |
| notebook. Write down a list of positive things in your | | | | this. Break it down to every hour if you have to. Do |
| life. Now write another list of the positive things you | | | | whatever works for you; what's important is you need |
| can see that will result because of a certain negative | | | | to make it so that your mind will fully believe that this is |
| event in your life. These two lists will make you smile | | | | possible. If you can't make yourself believe that you |
| every time you feel down and out. It will cheer you up | | | | can do this then forget about it. The whole thing will not |
| and keep despair at bay. Post it on the refrigerator or | | | | work for you. Faith and Belief are key ingredients in |
| in front of your computer so you can see the good in | | | | this exercise. Trust that it will all work out even if you |
| your life. Say a quick prayer and thank God for all | | | | don't have the exact details figured out yet. |
| these positives he has given you. | | | | Work on your solution every day. Think about your |
| Now if you've had a tragic event in your life, write | | | | solution every day and night, and even in your sleep. |
| down solutions you can take to make it better. If | | | | Think about nothing else. Keep that focus and work |
| you've lost a job, brainstorm ways to earn money and | | | | steadily towards it. I had a friend who did not make |
| get the income you need. Don't automatically jump into | | | | more than $5k a month in his sales career with his |
| another job, what are the other options. Keep your | | | | company. When he followed these exact steps he |
| mind open and keep the ideas flowing. Don't stop | | | | made $4,999.57, that's less than a dollar off. He was |
| writing. Is there a special talent you have that can earn | | | | so excited that he told his wife, and she gave him the |
| you income? What about a business? If it's another | | | | extra dollar before midnight of the deadline of this goal. |
| event, brainstorm how you can tackle it and make it | | | | I know it sounds unbelievable but when my friend |
| better or change it. We all have the power to change. | | | | stopped focusing on a goal the next few months his |
| If we don't like something, then go change it. Don't | | | | income when back to the range that it had been |
| whine about it. | | | | previously which was around $2k a month. |
| Another way to come up with ideas to get yourself | | | | Remember to not have any doubt in your mind or |
| out of a mess is to brainstorm with a few close | | | | despair during this time period or you'll have to start all |
| friends or your family. Several heads are better than | | | | over again. Having doubt, despair, sadness, |
| one. | | | | hopelessness or any of the negative emotions inside |
| Now take a break from all that mental labor and do | | | | of you destroys the positive emotions and makes you |
| something that will get your mind off of your problems. | | | | powerless to realize your goals and dreams. Keep |
| Go hiking, garden, go play paintball, swim, jog, etc. You | | | | your head up and keep going. |
| need to have a clear mind and dwelling on problems | | | | |