How Decisions Shape Your Destiny

The decisions you have made have shaped yourbest known Carthaginian commanders. His most
destiny. Some have turned out well, some poorly, andillustrious accomplishment was at the eruption of the
the result of all those decisions is who you are today.Second Punic War, when he marched an army, which
Decisions are made when you make a choice and cutincluded war elephants, from Iberia over the Pyrenees
yourself off from any other possibility. It is when youand the Alps into northern Italy. When faced by the
choose to move in one direction and not in any otherformidable Alps, he said, "We will either find a way or
possible direction. It is the cut-off point. It is amake a way."
commitment to one particular action.If you have that same stubborn, willful attitude about
The word "decision" comes from the Latin roots "de"your decisions, there is nothing that can stop you from
which means "from" and "caedere" which means "cuthaving anything that you want.
off." Thus, you cut-off from any other possibility.Decisions are made for one of two reasons. We
Each decision creates a selection of actions whicheither wish to experience more pleasure or we wish
then produce results.to avoid pain.
The power of your decisions is what moves your lifeProactive decisions, decisions to upgrade any aspect
forward or holds it back from fuller expression. Aof your life, are a movement toward pleasure. You
proactive choice is a momentum-building decision. Acan imagine the pleasure of having more of what you
reactive choice is an inertia-sustaining decision. Evennow lack.
not deciding and letting conditions control you is aReactive decisions, decisions to keep putting up with
decision.poor conditions, is a movement toward avoiding pain.
It is during your moments of proactive decision and theYou can imagine the pain of pushing up against a
desire to sustain that decision that creates all that isthreatening force. The pain of changing is greater than
good and worthy in your life.the pain of staying where you are right now. You
At any moment, for example, you can decide toprefer the devil that you know over the devil that you
pursue higher education, find a better job, discover thedon't know.
love of your life, or improve your health. You canYou are always making decisions. The question is are
decide on any number of things to upgrade the qualityyou making proactive or reactive decisions. The best
of your life. You can also decide to stick with thatway to find out is to ask yourself what you are
choice until you get what you want.focusing on, what things mean, and how your actions
On the other hand, it is during your moments ofwill impede or improve your life.
reactive decision and the desire to not commit toYour life is a series of decisions, one after another, and
anything that creates all that is frustrating in your life.it is the wisdom of your choices that determines the
You can decide not to do any of the things that canquality of your life. If you are not currently enjoying
improve your life. You can also decide to startyour life, you can decide right now to look for what it is
something and not finish it when you meet the first signthat you desire and decide to upgrade the way you
of opposition.are approaching things.
Often when we make a positive and proactiveWhen you can make decisions to remove pain and
decision, we feel discouraged because we do notincrease pleasure, then you will have discovered how
know how to accomplish our goal.the power of your decision can shape your destiny.
Yet deciding is what is important. The way will beYour life will really begin to expand in a positive way
found. Like the military leader Hannibal who was facedwhen, through experience, you are able to make
with the decision of whether or not to cross the Alps,distinctions between decisions that are proactive or
you can make the declaration to either find a way orreactive, pleasurable or painful, life-enhancing and
make a way.life-defeating, and momentum-building or
Hannibal Barca (247 BC to 183 BC) was one of theinertia-sustaining.